Can you go from friends to dating
“He unfollowed me on Twitter and unfriended me on Facebook.
I guess it was that painful [for him].” If you’re not willing to risk a friendship, you may want to think twice about dating your partner in crime.
No matter how much you like a guy, spending time with just your friends is crucial. “If I didn’t feel like seeing him or if we were in a fight, it’s awkward when he’s either there and you aren’t speaking to each other, or he can’t hang out with his friends because you’re there,” Gemma says.
“The reality is that a sustainable relationship or marriage requires the best qualities of friendship as part of the foundation,” Alexander says.Unless your potential beau has serious beef with your besties, there’s a good chance that your buddies already know and like him.“[My friends] were friends with him, so it wasn’t awkward when we all hung out,” says Gemma* a senior from Boston University who dated her best guy friend. While a girl rarely says no to a romantic dinner or movie outing with a new guy, these dates can carry a lot of pressure with them.“It raises the risk of losing a best friend.” Though awkwardly bumping into your former flame is a normal occurrence for a lot of collegiettes, breaking up with a best friend can feel more like Gotye’s “Somebody That I Used to Know.” “I used to talk to my ex every single night before we started dating.I haven’t talked to him since we broke up,” says Madison*, a senior at Boston University.
But be warned, collegiettes: convenience is rarely a good reason to date someone.